ADHD

This one kills me. I think mostly it's a crock. Everyone has impulses. Many of mine are to backhand kids diagnosed with ADHD. I control those impulses. So far. Controlling impulses isn't easy. These I suppress because of outside influence. There are laws and if I started backhanding unruly children I'd go to jail. That's a consequence. It is applied with consistency. It has a meaningful impact on my behavior. I don't backhand children who deserve it, I do have the impulse. I often wonder how much of ADHD is really just parents who suck at being parents. Without the law in place I assure you I would be backhanding a few children. Many homes have no law in place. There are no consequences for actions. Without consequences there is no reason to curb impulse. And we arrive at children with no impulse control. They are diagnosed with ADHD, wrongly because it's not caused by any chemical imbalance but by neglect in the home. Well meaning doctors prescribe drugs found to be effective in cases of actual ADHD, but these drugs are inefective when the problem is lack of parenting. There have, apparently, always been ADHD children. There have not always been the problems associated with them. In older, less "enlightened" times, stark discipline was well able to distinguish between actual cases of ADHD and children who lacked discipline at home. Even now I know children who will behave for me but run rampant over their parents. They know, beyond any doubt, that I will punish them if they misbehave. They know, beyond any doubt, that their parents will not. This even seems to have worked with the actual ADHD children, to an extent. But that was an extent that curtailed the problems we commonly see now. And that was without any drugs. Anyone doubting this should interveiw an old teacher, especially a nun. Knuckle rapping works to maintain order. Even with kids who have poor impulse control it gives pause. A moment of thought about the impending consequence for unruly behavior. And that often results in impulse control in children who have poor impulse control. Mostly, though, I think it is a problem with adults that manifests in their children. If you are ill equipped for parenting, which takes much time, effort, care, planning, participation, relief, backup, etc. then you should definitely refrain from having six children. As the problem is most often an imbalance, not in the head of the child, but in the head of the home, perhaps that is where some consequences should be directed. In Arizona parents are responsible for the torts of their children. Perhaps what we should do is call the police and file for disturbing the peace. If you can't control your children that's your problem, don't make it mine. Let them run amuck at home, not in the restaurant where I'm trying to enjoy a meal.